What dogs and cats have to do with explaining Presence?

Have you ever seen one of those home-made videos where a cat sees itself in the mirror and gets scared? Or one of the videos where a dog barks at his image in the mirror?

We are laughing when we see that.

Why? What gives us the “power” to be amused by those situations, in which the animal is totally engrossed?

Of course, it’s the fact that we can see – from our “higher” perspective – that the dog is, actually, seeing itself in the mirror; that the dog he’s barking at is, actually, itself.

In other words, we can see Both instances of the dog, in the same time.

The dog is only seeing the image in front of his eyes. The dog is not seeing itself – at least, not with seeing the mirror image. If the dog had the capability to See that he’s looking at itself, he’d probably either quietly walk away or admire itself, wiggling its tail. 🙂

It’s only when you can see Both images in the same time that you can notice that they are Connected and how they determine each other’s movements.

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How many times have you “fallen” prey to your immediate feelings, ignited by the image you saw: somebody’s behavior, or somebody’s words? Isn’t it true that – in those moments – All of your attention was Captivated by that person and All you could think of was Them, What they did and what it Meant to you?

Some people would not be able – yet – to see that process even now, when it’s nothing triggering them and their attention is relaxed. However, many people will have the capacity and strength to admit that – in those moments – they were just like the little puppy barking at the mirror (seeing only that image and not having any consciousness of itself, not being able to see Both characters In The Same Time).

Some trainers teach that – in those situations – you should “control your feelings”. But… how can you do that if All that you see is “the other person”, not being able to see ‘yourself’ [in the same time]?

Thus, the First step is to “detach” from the situation by taking a Higher Perspective which will allow you to see Both yourself and the person triggering you, In The Same Time. Then – you’ll be able to see the Connection between you two and how your behaviors influence each other. That alone will make all the difference in the world. Holding that ‘distance’, holding that ‘space’ will make room for unknown wisdom to sneak in and to guide your behavior, solving the situation in a more satisfying way that you could’ve imagined – without you even being able to know What you did.

That ‘stepping back’, that ‘distance’, that ‘space’ that you’re holding, that ‘higher perspective’ and seeing all the characters involved (including yourself) In The Same Time

That’s Presence and [some of] its benefits.

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Note: The “trainers” that I mentioned above surely had that experience, but then tried to look back and collect What they did and teach that to others. They are oblivious to the fact that it is the Presence that’s Primary and that the Behaviors are Secondary. The same Behavior will have totally different results, depending on the Place [the person] is Coming From.

Meditation – should I stop my Thinking

 

I found that many people talk about Meditation in terms of “stop your thoughts”, or “you have to sit down for one hour daily, with your eyes closed, without thinking”…

In teaching people about Meditation or Mindfulness, the most common
“objection” that I hear is that “it’s difficult to just sit there, with my eyes closed, because that’s when I start Having Thoughts, and I Feel the urge to do something more useful” (well, something along those lines…)

I had the same experience, in the past. What happened for me, though, is that I realized that Meditation or Mindfulness is Not something that you do for one hour and then you resume your habitual way of being for the rest of the day… Rather, Meditation is something that you [can] do all day long, or at any moment you feel like…

… just by Observing without Judging…

It will feel weird at the beginning (because we still Identify with the Thoughts we might entertain at a given moment, or because we still take those Thoughts as telling us something about the future). You will have the impulse to “do something”, as response to those Thoughts … Well, look AT that impulse and Don’t “do” anything about that impulse, neither. Just “Observe without Judging” even that tendency. “Observe without Judging” yourself having that tendency (notice for yourself “oh, look, I started to get worried”)

After a while, you will love the easiness, the stillness, the peace that will grow more and more inside you…

Try it out and see what happens… It won’t “take time” out of your day… It won’t include “more things to do” on your [already busy] list… Just bring a different quality to the “doing”, by noticing that you are Not “the thing that you are doing or thinking about”… noticing that you are “something” who “Does the doing or the thinking”…

That, in and of itself, it’s a moment of enlightenment, of Presence, of Connection…

 

PS. here’s a nice metaphor…

Techniques addiction – What if Connection comes first?

 

 

 

Techniques are in big demand nowadays – we’ve been led to believe that this is what we need – a good technique, if we want to accomplish anything. Anytime we find ourselves “in trouble”, the first thing we focus on is “what is the best thing To Do in order to get to where I want?”

Question: What would need to be true for us, to do that – to look for a way ‘to operate UPON a particular situation? To look for what to Do, rather than what to Be, for resolving it?

Obviously, we need to see ourselves as Separate of that situation and of the other people involved. We want a particular outcome to unfold and we use techniques to control the external circumstances to make that possible. We start from the presumption that what makes that outcome possible is a particular external circumstance. Thus, we focus on controlling the external circumstances…

 

Paradoxically, however, we live through a different understanding when it comes to our bodies. And, I would say, this understanding works much better and much more effective.

Think of this for a moment…

– you’re standing on a boat, floating through the waves

– you want to walk from one end to the other of it

– however, the waves are shaking the boat

Question:

– are you looking for a technique to control the waves (i.e., the external circumstances)?

– or are you focusing on maintaining the balance of your body, knowing that this is how you increase the chances for you to reach to the other end of the boat? And, even if you use various ‘helping techniques’, you know that their true and first purpose is maintaining the balance of your body, rather than manipulating the conditions, or even than ‘getting there’ – because we intrinsically Know that “walking” is not separated from our body… our body Makes the ‘walking’.

 

I bet that the second answer make the best sense to you…

 

What if this is what we first and foremost need, if we want to create in Alignment to the Natural Order of Things: Balance of the Mind, Presence, Connection?

What if the purpose of a technique is to facilitate for Us to Connect and Become Present, rather than “making Them” behave in a particular way?

What if Connection comes first?

 

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