It’s a common tendency, having ancestral roots in our psyche. But what if we are wrongfully interpreting the meaning of this word?
Etymologically speaking, Approve = A + Prove
The prefix “a” means “not, near, without, toward” (latin).
So, “approve” means “not proved [yet]”, as in “it may not be popular”, not “in trend”.
In other words, “approve” does not refer to “me” (as a person, something that others should do for me), but to “the thing” I’m about to do and that I am shy about. It is “the thing” that is not “proved yet.”
It was a time when, if I wanted to sail around the world, people would not approve of me. However, once that activity was proved to be valid, if I said that I wanted to sail around the world, “being approved of” wouldn’t be a problem anymore.
If you feel the need “to be approved”, most probably that means that – in your reality – the thing you’re just about to do is “not proved yet”. Most probably, you feel unsure about it and you crave the approval of others, to give you permission to do it.
That’s a good moment to realize that your feeling of “craving approval” says nothing about the “provability” of the thing you’re about to do. That means that you are, actually, allowed to go and do it, and – as a result – prove it.
And, once you’ve done it, that thing is now “proved” and you are “approved of”.
Just for fun, look at the page below: Failed Technology Predictions. It’s interesting how many people expressed that they “don’t approve” of something, until that thing was, actually, demonstrated by having been done.